It’s what you are NOT saying that is costing you more relationships than what you ARE saying….

Both from my own experiences and listening to highly successful people around me, it’s the lack of vulnerability, transparency, and authenticity that hold us back…

Building relationships starts with a commonality…

  • Could be a sports team
  • Or hunting
  • Or fishing
  • Or bourbon and cigars

All of those are great things but in general are superficial….

The best bonds are built through struggle…

Just like soldiers build a band of brotherhood and teammates whether sports or business-related build bonds.

Some of the best bonds you can build are through your struggles and weaknesses and insecurities…

I am not saying get online and complain all the time but opening about what you are and are not great at…

Telling people how you struggle and deal with adversity and have demons and skeletons to overcome…

That will connect at a deeper level with your ecosystem than a common interest in a sports team…

You’ll be respected because everyone knows how hard it is to admit the things that are not ideal…

You’ll be loved because having the problem and overcoming it is better than pretending you don’t have it…

And things are literally never as good or as bad as you picture them in your head…

So, tell the story…
Being authentic is just saying things as you see them or as you feel about them without a filter…

The minute you say to yourself I can’t say it that way because it might upset one person is the trigger you need to share it exactly that way!

For every person you may offend I bet there are 9 people who need to hear that someone survived what they are currently dealing with…

That there is hope at the end of the struggle…

That if you can do it, they can do it…

Be real

Be authentic

Be Transparent

And be amazed at how your relationships and life change….