Are you tired of trying to fit into someone else’s mold? Do you find yourself comparing your journey to the highlight reels of others? We understand the struggles of living up to external expectations. At WinRate Consulting, with over 5 years of experience working with business owners, we’ve witnessed the transformative power of setting your own standards and embracing your unique strengths. In this article, we delve into the importance of living up to your own expectations, being authentic, and finding fulfillment on your own terms. Discover how to break free from societal pressures and create a path that aligns with your true potential.
Setting Proper Expectations: Unleashing Your True Potential
I’ve been saying this a lot lately: “Touch the line,” “Play through the whistle,” “Set the standard,” “Be the example,” it all comes back to a common and I think underestimated theme of you have to live up to the expectation that you set for yourself. But that comes back to setting proper expectations to yourself.
I’m pretty fired up. Pastor Steven Furtick with Elevation Church had a killer, killer talk about understanding and living and moving into what you are made for. He used the analogy of a fish trying to fly or a bird trying to swim. Both suck at doing the other person’s job. And I think so many of us are out there right now comparing ourselves to the highlight reel of social media, comparing ourselves to the gross revenue numbers of our competition or friends, comparing ourselves to the image of what the other people around you think you’re supposed to be, comparing yourself to this fabricated image and trying to force yourself into this square peg into a round hole type situation.
Embracing Your Unique Calling: Harnessing the Power of Empathy and Communication
Ultimately, setting the standard and being the example comes back to you living up to and setting the standard and being the example of what you know need to do, being all in on who you are supposed to be, because the more you push yourself into these other waters, the more you push yourself into doing things that you are just not built to do, the more your insecurities, the more your anxieties, the more you’re going to not live up to them, which makes the compounding effect of trying to do things you’re not supposed to be doing or not built to be doing and then failing, and then insecurities creeping in, and then trying again, and then failing. And then your insecurity’s creeping in and your anxiety’s creeping in and your depression’s creeping in, because you’re over here trying to be something that you are not built to be.
I don’t pretend or believe that… I don’t have a lot of sympathy in my life, but I have an incredible amount of empathy. And I think owning that and knowing that… And there’s a lot of people out there that think Mike’s an asshole. The people who truly know me knows that Mike, me, comes from a place of love with everything I do, the people I want to help, the things I try to do, the way I deliver things. I deliver things in the way that I think people need to hear them, not want to hear them. I deliver the information that I believe people need to hear, not want to hear. And that makes me the bad guy sometimes. That makes me the asshole sometimes.
But I will tell you, there’s not a single client I’ve worked with that does not believe or at least truly understand that I’m coming from a place of absolute love and care. But my empathy, empathy is my skillset. Empathy and communication is where I belong. I grew up just being the menace, being the person that was always talking, being the person that was always trying to be the center of attention. And I’m sure at some point, someone told me, “Well, Mike, not everybody cares what you have to say.” Good.
But if I would’ve stopped talking back then, the amount of people I wouldn’t have impacted through my empathy, through my ability to communicate. And I’m setting the standard in my life about what I believe a champion looks like in the discipline, in the mental toughness, in the routines, in the success and the way that I represent myself and my family and my wife and my church and my clients. And I want to represent the thing that I’m trying to coach people to get to so I’m not some sort of hypocrite. There’s a lot of hypocritical coaches out there or just leaders in general. Take the word coaches out of it. There’s a lot of hypocritical leaders out there, right?
And it’s one of those things where if you just don’t lean into and understand who are you, what are you here for, what are you built for, why were you given those tools and skillsets and abilities that you were in, why were you not given other skillsets, abilities that you were like… Dude, I’ve always wished I could be an artist. I’ve always been fascinated by people who are creative in the way that they sing, the way that they paint, the way that they draw, the way that they sculpt. I have always been fascinated by artists. But if I sat here and tried to sell paint for a living or paintings for a living or sculptures for a living, I’d be a broke ass dude.
But my creativity and my ability to be an artist is with my words. My ability to communicate and put things together in a way that leave an impact on my audience is my creative outlet. It is the way that I use artistry in myself. And if I were to try to fight that and I went just like, “I want to be an artist so badly,” I’d probably get better at some point, but I would never be or reach the potential or reach the influence that I would using my words and my communication and my empathy.
Unleashing Your Authenticity: Building Your Business on Your Own Terms
So for you, playing through the whistle, touching the line, setting the standard, being the example, it’s all about understanding what it is you are trying to live up to for yourself, being the best at what you’re the best at and being okay with what you suck at. Everybody sucks at something.
I’m getting tired of the amount of people out there pushing your get rich quick shit and teaching people what their business is supposed to look like. It’s your fucking business. Build it the way you want. I know for a fact there are people that I used to think were friends that don’t like me anymore. I know for a fact there are people out there that used to appreciate or be around me that don’t want to be around me anymore. But I’m going all in on being the best version of who I believe I need to be.
It’s not going to be for everybody. My results are not going to live up to everybody. I might never be a 10 million dollar company, but I’ll be pretty happy building a three million dollar company, impacting hundreds of lives a year, if not thousands of lives a year.
Even the way I’m bringing on coaches onto the team right now, the way we’re throwing our first revenue generating event the end of March, I don’t know if it’s going to be successful or not, but we’re going for it, because that’s what I think we should do right now. It’s what I think would be the best suited use of our talents right now. And I’m taking my team and saying, “What are we best at? And let’s use that to our advantage.”
Embrace Your Unique Path: Defying Expectations and Finding Fulfillment
So I’m going to challenge you. What are you doing this week to take advantage of the things that you’re great at and to overcome or ignore or avoid the things that you suck at? I don’t care what anybody else tells you. If you know you’re great at something, go after it passionately. If you know suck at something, be okay sucking at it. I’m really okay with what I’m good at and I’m really okay with what I’m bad at, and I’m really okay not knowing everything. But what I do know, I know very confidently. I stay in my lane and I do the best I can to deliver my opinions and my feelings and my emotions as authentically and directly as I can.
And I’m not doing it for you. I’ve never once done this for you. I do this because if I hold it in and I don’t let it out and I’m not honest with people to the best of my ability when I feel it’s the right thing to do, I get completely bottled up on the inside. I get completely wound up. I get extreme depression, extreme anxiety. So I put this up out there because it makes me feel better. And that’s enough for me. And that should be enough for you. You should go do what you want to do the way you want to do because it fulfills you, not because of the other people around you. And the faster and the quicker you figure that out, the faster and the quicker you’re going to lose this anchor of the depression, the anxiety, the frustration, the disappointment because you’re trying to be your fit into this box that somebody else told you you need to fit into. And I’m telling you, you don’t. I’m telling you you don’t have to. I’m telling you it’s okay to set the standard and be the example of what you believe it needs to look like, not compared to anybody else.
Unleash Your Full Potential: Embrace Your Unique Path to Success
In this article, we’ve delved into the importance of setting proper expectations for yourself, staying true to who you are, and embracing your strengths and weaknesses. At WinRate Consulting, we have over 5 years of experience helping business owners navigate their journeys and achieve success.
Now, it’s time for you to take action. This week, commit to touching the line, playing through the whistle, and setting the standard in your own life. Work diligently, go the extra mile, and fearlessly express your beliefs and opinions. Remember, being polarizing can lead to immense growth and success.
Get after this week with unwavering determination. Make it great, win fast, and win often. Have zero doubt in your abilities and embrace who you are. Be relentless and seize every opportunity on your journey towards success.
